Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Hi everyone!

I hope you’re enjoying your recreated Thanksgiving leftovers (fried mashed potato cakes? Turkey and cranberry paninis?) πŸ™‚

I’ve been feeling like a green-eyed monster lately. I stumbled upon the Instagram of a graduate school classmate who looks like she’s absolutely killing it — she’s graduating next month while working part-time while working with BeachBody/Shakeology (according to her social media, it’s helped her lose 35 lbs and earn $35k to help pay off the debt over the past 2.5 years), looks happily married, goes on work retreats, etc. She’s only one year older than me.

I have another friend who is wrapping up her master’s program and just got promoted to charge nurse at her unit. And another who is working as a flight attendant and is traveling to all these fun places. And another who’s killing her dual PhD/NP program. Etc etc. Maybe I need less ambitious friends…. (kidding! kind of).

I’m slowly getting through my graduate school project and will be doing my clinicals during the entire 2018 year. I’ve gained weight (less working out/activity since moving back home, eating as a stress reliever) and still trying to figure out my job balance (I was originally full-time, then part-time, then per diem and full-time, and now have three per diem jobs for the varied experiences). I’m also trying to plan a wedding and learn more self-care. I feel like some days I’m not doing enough, and other days I’ve got too much on my plate. If only life was simple….

… but I need to remember that my path is different, my experiences are different. In a perfect world, I’d have a regular schedule working part-time, work out daily, yoga daily, eat when I’m hungry (and stop when I’m full), sleep 8-9 hours a night, walk to work, spend time with my SO and family and friends, actually keep everything straight….

… and maybe that will be me. In about a year (minus the walk to work part). Who knows. We’ll see. πŸ™‚

Anyone else having a quarter-life crisis? Please tell me that I’m not alone.

Cheers! Nicole


33 thoughts on “Comparison is the Thief of Joy”

  1. You are not along ! I’m having a thee-quarter life crisis ad social media makes me even more depressed! But remember, people only share things that make them look good. Looks like you have accomplished a lot already,

    You go, girl!

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    1. I need to remember people show their highlights and not everything πŸ™ˆ I appreciate your kind words! And I agree, social media makes me feel sad a lot of times. Thanks for your thoughts and have a great day!


  2. I often have to remind myself to not be jealous as you never know the whole story. With social media you can choose what to present so it’s a pretty one sided glimpse into people’s lives. I think you can use others to inspire you, but always remember, you’re you and you’re doing the best you can right now!

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  3. It’s hard not to compare ourselves. I am definitely the same way since every one my age right now is graduating and entering their careers and I haven’t even taken my ACTs to get into college…everyone has their own paths!!! Sounds like yours is going well for you, just as well as the friends you described! Don’t worry so much. You’re doing awesome!!!

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  4. I find with social media we are only seeing what people want us to. Nobody sees the less than glamourous and mundane behind the scenes pics of everyday life. I’ve learnt to look at my timeline and just remind myself of that.
    Also, everybody is on their own path with their own set of goals and if we try to compare everyone else’s journey to our own we miss out on enjoying our own lives.
    Sounds like you are doing great so take a moment to relax and enjoy πŸ™‚

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  5. Oh yes, a quarter life crisis is real and I’ve been there! I actually just wrote a post last week about advice to my younger self and a big part of it was not comparing my life to others. Easier said than done! I feel like everyone beat me to their life milestone’s and I couldn’t help but feel discouraged by that.

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  6. I’ve been struggling with this too. Sometimes taking a break from social media is helpful for me. It’s tough to avoid comparison. I find it especially frustrating when I sincerely want to be happy for someone, but I find myself getting jealous instead. It can be a struggle internally. You’re definitely not alone.

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  7. It’s so true that comparison is the thief of joy! It’s easy to compare yourself in the world of social media, but I think the best thing to do is just focus on being the best version of yourself and doing what makes you happy. Also, it’s important to remember that things are not always what they seem, and people may portray themselves in a different light on social. Do you & follow your own path πŸ™‚

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  8. I am so the type of person that… Once T DAY is over, I don’t really go for the left overs – because I am not used to leftovers because I am the type to ALWAYS clean my plate and then some – hahahahhahah! I did however eat turkey the next day but then… DONE!

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  9. You can’t believe what you see on social media! I have found that people who appear to have the most fantastic lives are often the ones who are barely keeping it together.
    You have an amazing life!

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  10. oh yes for sure can relate. i’m in the middle of my last year of undergrad, and so many people around me have jobs and in general appear to have their lives together. it’s so tempting to go stalk people on linkedin, but it’s super unhealthy for me because i know i’d be comparing their lives to mine lol.

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    1. Yes, I have to avoid LinkedIn too because it gets too easy to be disappointed in one’s own accomplishments… but we each have our own feats to be proud of! Thanks for your thoughts and have a great day πŸ™‚


  11. Comparison really is a thief. It’s crazy how much social media can impact us and what we think peoples lives are like! I’ve heard of Instagram being a sort of “lifestyle porn” and I can totally see that. People show their highlight reels on Instagram, and then we compare our imperfect lives to their perfect feeds. I can totally relate!

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  12. Eeek, I am right there with you! It seems like the ~mid-twenties is a rough time with SO many friends in different life stages. Minimum 3 weddings a year, attending grad school ceremonies, and deciding if we’re on the correct career path. I hear 30 is where things are really great, hahah.

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